Esteem – Heal On Purpose

16Sep 2016 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide No Comments

F Balance, Be Intentional Instead!

I fell hook, line, and sinker for the elusive goal of obtaining balance. I even wrote a poem about it here. But what is balance actually? As I think more about my life and how it is in constant flux I become anxious for the need to get it all lined up just so. I picture myself walking on a tight rope, focus honed in on the task at hand. Unable to move left or right for fear of free falling. Rigid in my movements. The flexibility to adjust? Drastically limited. And what I come away with is a life filled with restraint. No room to breathe too deeply because I may throw off my weight distribution on the rope. No freedom to take in my surroundings because a loss…

29Feb 2016 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide 2 Comments

Time Management…

Esteem, Trauma/Triggers/Coping

February 29. The day that happens only once every 4 years and on this day I find myself reflecting on these first two months of 2016, what I have accomplished, and have yet to do. So as you reflect on your entry into 2016 be gentle with yourself but be honest. Take stock of these past months. Did you do everything you set out to do? If you did how did you mange to do so? If not, why not? What hindered you? What can you do to combat those obstacles? Two months down, ten more to go! How do you plan to live them? January and February have been whirlwinds of randomness for me. I failed at intentionally going after my goals. I didn't work out like i planned…

01Feb 2016 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide No Comments

Anchor

Esteem, self-care, Trauma/Triggers/Coping

It's been a quiet month of January for me. It made me anxious that I had not posted. I felt compelled to force communication and every time I came here to post, it felt unauthentic, so I chose silence. And in that silence I remained true to myself. Often we do things not because we want to but because we feel we should. At times sacrificing to the point where we have nothing left, not even for ourselves. Does this sound familiar? Giving from a place which others do not replenish, leaving it empty? It is a wonderful thing to be caring. To want to help others, but not if it diminishes you. That way lies bitterness. Im not exempt from the lesson. It took me a while to get…

23Dec 2015 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide 6 Comments

It’s hard to heal what we conceal…

Esteem

I came across an article in the Huffington Post that I thought was important to share, 11 habits f people with concealed depression. Feeling blue, a bit down, a little sad, in a funk; however you describe it, depression is real. Depression is especially prevalent around the holiday season, and even more so, it is concealed. In an effort to not be a "burden" or a "downer" people suppress their feelings, oping to put on a happy face as to not disturb the feel good vibes of those around them. Having battled depression on and off since I was a child, I have become quite adept at hiding my "blues" choosing to mask them with busyness. However, as I began to recognize the importance of my mental health and how…

15Dec 2015 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide 1 Comment

Resilient…

Esteem, Trauma/Triggers/Coping

We all go through things. It is what you do in the midst of a storm that highlights who you really are. It is easy to be calm when the sun is shining, it is infinitely harder to retain that same fortitude when you are caught out in a downpour with no umbrella. Life can be a tumultuous tornado, wracking havoc on all of our plans. Laying waste to a foundation we thought was solid. Shining a spotlight on our vulnerability. In those moments when we find ourselves broken we become truly acquainted with our strength. We realize just how much we are capable of. We keep going. Sometimes smiling, sometimes crying, often both at the same time, we continue. Being broken doesn't equate to uselessness. It is an opportunity…

06Dec 2015 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide No Comments

Intentionally Happy…

Esteem

For the parents...(or anyone really) As I find myself becoming more and more overwhelmed with life, mentally tired, and struggling to focus on the positive, I decided that it would be beneficial to myself and to my kids for me to work on my mindset. I was thinking about how I can be more "present" in my children's lives. I come home from work and I often find myself looking for an escape route, a moment to just breathe. Taking for granted that I can "plugin" later. In a moment. Soon... Unfortunately with life being as it is, there may not be a soon. But there is now. So I came up with a seven-day chart to help my children and I celebrate the now and to be intentionally happy.…

21Nov 2015 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide 1 Comment

It’s your choice. Choose wisely…

Esteem

I'm still learning this and everyday I work harder to choose to be happy. Life is not always what we want it to be. The world is so full of things we don't control, but one thing we definitely DO control is our mindset. Yes it is easier to give in to circumstances. To allow ourselves to become immersed in negativity. It is okay to feel the feelings. To acknowledge that things are not what we want them to be. But once we face our reality. Once we take stock and give name to our emotions, then what? Then there is a decision to be made. Happiness is a choice. When things are going every way but right, happiness can be a difficult choice to make, but we we still…

04Nov 2015 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide No Comments

A season of contemplation…

Esteem

As I sit here watching the leaves fall, contemplating the end of a season and the ushering in of the next; As the days shorten and darkness reaches across my yard while picking my kids up from school, I give stock to my life. Fall tends to be the season of thoughtfulness. A beautiful lull as nature prepares for hibernation. This is the perfect time to reflect. Now is the time to look at ones accomplishments and goals and make plans. No New Year Resolutions but Now Determinations. As each leaf detaches itself and floats upon the breeze before settling upon the ground, I enumerate a goal achieved, an opportunity presented, a path yet trodden. So I urge you, take hold of that leaf, a symbolism of opportunity, as it flutters…

25Oct 2015 by Yulinda Renee Spiritual Clinical Guide No Comments

It’s okay to feel…

Esteem

It's okay to feel. Often we find ourselves ignoring our emotions. Locking them up and tucking them away because we don't have time to deal with them. But unacknowledged emotions don't disappear. They often get manifested in other ways, ways that are often unhealthy, ways that we tend to regret. Having feelings is not weak. Being emotional is not weak. Learning to express your emotions in a healthy way is a strength that often gets taken for granted. It is okay to feel sad, frustrated, disappointed, lost, hurt, unsure, etc. The thing is, what do you do with those feelings? Do you lash out unexpectedly? Drink to excess? Smoke? Take your frustration out on your children? Overeat? This goes for everyone, men and women, young and old. Being holistically well…