I came across an article in the Huffington Post that I thought was important to share, 11 habits f people with concealed depression.
Feeling blue, a bit down, a little sad, in a funk; however you describe it, depression is real.
Depression is especially prevalent around the holiday season, and even more so, it is concealed.
In an effort to not be a “burden” or a “downer” people suppress their feelings, oping to put on a happy face as to not disturb the feel good vibes of those around them.
Having battled depression on and off since I was a child, I have become quite adept at hiding my “blues” choosing to mask them with busyness.
However, as I began to recognize the importance of my mental health and how it effects my ability to parent, I have begun to acknowledge my needs. I occasionally reach out to those I trust to handle my feelings with care.
Be mindful of those around you.
We often drop little clues in the hopes that the people we love will pick up on them without us having to hand over our bleeding heart and face the possibility of being rebuffed.
So take note, please.
Often times just acknowledging that you see something is “off” will be enough to lift a mood.
You have the potential to be a catalyst for positive change.
For those going through, you are not alone. Your “cure” can usually be found on the other side of your ability to be vulnerable.
You are worthy of being holistically well…
6 thoughts on “It’s hard to heal what we conceal…”
What if you tell people but no one cares?
What I have learned dealing with my own depression is that it’s usually not that people don’t care, it’s that they are clueless when it comes to helping others deal with problems that are emotional (more abstract versus concrete). To put it bluntly, people kinda suck when it comes to how we treat people dealing with mental/emotional issues. It makes people uncomfortable because they don’t know how to fix it for you. Friends, family, lovers, doesn’t matter. I use to get angry until I realized that it’s not their fault, they are just not equipped to deal and that’s okay.
The issue comes in when people who don’t know what to do, often say and/or do things that make it worse, out of some misguided attempt to “fix” you.
The best thing to do is just forgive them for their ignorance. “They know not what they do”.
BUT, here’s my email email@example.com
I’m all ears…
But what if they ignore you completely? They see you have an issue and they make fun out of it? I don’t know where to turn. But I will contact you thank you
Short answer? Because some people can be jerks and making fun of your issue helps them to ignore their own. The long answer is a bit more complicated.
But yes, I’m here to help however I can.
The first point in that article *sigh*